Conversation with a recovering hoarder

Lee Shuer calls himself a “finder keeper.” He doesn’t like the word “hoarder,” because to him, it’s insulting, and does not really explain the specifics of what is going on, since each person is different. For Lee, “finder keeper” describes his behavior, and other terms people can use are “excessive collecting,” or “problematic clutter.” For this post, I’ll refer to the word “hoarder,” because it’s what most people are familiar with. You can decide what works for you. Lee contacted me after my last post on hoarding was published. He wanted to educate me, and what he shared with me is so good, I’m sharing it with you. Here is what he says: What was really significant for me that led to my own hoarding is the identity piece. It was the feeling that the things I had would be interesting to people so they would want to see what […]

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What your clutter says about you

Have you ever noticed that your clutter is tied to how you feel inside? I notice that when I’m not feeling settled, or I’m anxious about something or in some way feeling scattered, I tend to let stuff pile up more than when I’m feeling calm. Clutter is such a graphic manifestation of our inner world, isn’t it? To bring this home, I just received an email from a reader who said she was going through a huge life transition with her youngest child off to college, she was in a luke-warm marriage, and she’d been a homemaker and wanted to find her passion, but didn’t know where to start. Her whole email was about how unsettled, lost and dissatisfied she felt. And then she talked about how her home office was disorganized and she wasn’t managing her paper very well. She wrote: “I believe my hidden clutter is symptomatic […]

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The insanely simple and healthy way to put dinner on the table

Bowls. Think bowls. I am always on the search for insanely healthy and ridiculously simple ways to put dinner on the table. That’s because I get stressed trying to come up with something new every night. So I came across the bowl method. It definitely passes my test for ridiculously simple and healthy cooking. Here’s all you need, every night: Bowl Grain Veggies Protein Sauce Miscellaneous goodies for added excitement Done. The only cooking tools you’ll need are also insanely simple: wooden spoon, knife, frying pan and sauce pan. I found a great book that massively simplifies this idea. It’s titled Grain Bowls, by Anna Shillinglaw Hampton. Even the layout is super simple – each page shows you the finished bowl, plus a super simple recipe. I’m loving this! Minimal and healthy cooking at its finest! Here are a few samples:   Red Quinoa Ratatouille Time: 15 minutes Serves 2 […]

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Permanently calm your anxiety with this morning routine

Did you know that forty percent of us are wired more anxiously than others? If you’re one of the group, don’t worry! You’re not doomed to always be anxious. You can change your neural pathways to be more calm. Current science is all about the plasticity of neural pathways – which means that our brains can indeed, be re-wired. Think of your brain’s neural pathways as a trail through the woods. Say it’s a trail that’s been used a lot, and that’s the trail you usually take. But what if you want to take a different trail – one that doesn’t yet exist or is very faint? You have to bushwhack through the woods and forge your new trail. It takes some effort, right? But if you keep walking on the trail every day, pretty soon you’ll carve out a new trail. If you stop using the old trail, eventually the weeds […]

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